Creating a Drama Free Zone ( is it possible?)

[Karin Hiebert]

Creating a Drama Free Zone

We all get caught up in drama at one time or another. It comes in many forms. You might be struggling with in-fighting between family members, roped into a legal hassle with someone who mistakenly sees the proliferation of paperwork as progress, or embroiled in a nasty divorce that keeps everyone living on the edge. Sometimes the drama occurs in our minds – obsessing over something we did in the past, worrying about whether or not we'll get an outcome we desire, or over thinking a problem to death.


You know you're caught up in drama when you feel a sense of ongoing, emotional entanglement in a situation – a circumstance that seems to take over your life. While there are some events that will take time to get resolved, that doesn't mean that you have to suffer. If drama is on your plate, here are...

Three Things You Can Do;

*1. Stop talking about it.
Don't gossip with others, don't debate the situation to death, and don't allow others to bait you with inquiries about what's going on either. Talking about the details over and over again gives more energy to the problem rather than the solution.


*2. Identify the button pushers.
Oftentimes drama is fueled by unresolved past issues that get stirred up by present-day problems. If you feel like a five-year-old every time you find yourself in the company of your ex, for example, chances are he or she is re triggering a situation from your past where you may have felt powerless or afraid. These are therapy issues that can be worked through with the support of an experienced counselor. If you can't afford that kind of help right now, check out John Lee‚s paperback book,"Growing Yourself Back Up," for great advice and direction.


*3.
Visualize & Affirm - Visualize a successful outcome for all those involved. Put energy into the solution by creating some kind of visualization (and verbal affirmation) that you can turn to when you feel frustrated, anxious, or fed up. Think of an image that helps you to feel cared for, powerful, and calm. I know someone who Used the image of a wise and loving grandmother as she went through her painful divorce. Each time she needed to take some kind of action, she followed it up by placing herself and the problem in the lap of this grandmother (in her mind's eye) while quietly repeating to herself, "I see this situation resolved for the highest good of everyone involved.
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There's an old saying that you can't have a war when one side doesn't show up. Be that side. Do what you have to to address the situation and then walk away from the drama. Not only do you give yourself (and the problem) the greatest chance for a successful outcome, more important, you protect your peace of mind – the most valuable gain of all.

Take Action Challenge

Ready to leave the drama behind? Create a sign that says: Drama Free Zone, and keep it nearby to remind you to practice one or more of the suggestions above.
Let's bring a little peace to the problem, and there won't BEE one... ;)

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Karin Hiebert

[Barbara Johnson]

Hi Karin,

I love the "Drama Free Zone" concept!. It makes it so much easier to focus on what needs doing and to play your part. Some people only learn from drama. They seem to need to create a high emotional intensity to tune in. It can be fun, but not if you have a job to do at that time.

I guess there are exceptions, though. Like if you have a baby and that is the only way it can communicate with you. You have to drop everything and give it a cuddle. Like, hey, bubs, mummy's here- type thing.

Cheers
Barbara